How to be a helpful BYSTANDER in bullying situations:
- Make it clear to your co-workers that you won’t participate in bullying behaviours
- Never stand by, watch and do nothing (ask yourself: what if it was me?)
- Never encourage bullying behaviour – this makes you a co-bully
- Report bullying incidents to management ASAP; waiting doesn’t help anyone but the bully
- If the bullying is so serious that you feel the victim’s life or personal safety is in danger, report it to the police
- Never respond to messages, emails or photos that might be upsetting or offensive – this includes ‘liking’ or sharing a social media post that denigrates a co-worker
- Don’t spread office gossip; for some, this is like suggesting ‘don’t breathe’ because the habit is so second-nature but spreading rumours, half-truths and ‘juicy drama’ around an office is a type of bullying no less harmful than standing over someone’s desk and yelling in their face
- Do everything you can to support a bullying target in asking for help or reporting the incident(s)
- When assisting a victim in reporting a bullying incident, remember that well-documented facts trump emotion and opinion every time.
Bystanders come in two categories: harmful bystander and helpful bystanders.
Which type of Bystander will you be?